Modesty

I struggled with my tween daughter FOREVER with modest dressing, boy did we go round and round about it.

She moved out before she turned 18 and still we never made any headway. But she is legally an adult now and can dress how she wants, listen to what she wants, be who she wants to be. She just knows we still have the same boundaries as we always have.

So good luck to all of you moms out there who care enough to set boundaries and STICK WITH THEM. Don’t give in, don’t give up, keep praying for strength.

The Modesty Survey was not intended to serve as a scientific measurement of what the average man thinks about modesty. In the strictest sense, it isn’t a survey, but a discussion between Christian guys and girls who care about modesty. Over 200 Christian girls submitted their questions. In less than twenty days, over 1,600 Christian guys (12 and up) responded. Close to 200,000 separate pieces of data were collected, including 25,000 text responses.

The survey was presented in a traditional five-point Agree/Disagree format. Each participant was presented with 148 positive/negative statements and was given the options to Agree, Strongly Agree, Disagree, Strongly Disagree, or remain Neutral. Each statement was accompanied by an optional text box for additional explanation.

In reading through the survey, you might have trouble finding a single item of clothing that someone, somewhere, doesn’t have a problem with. So where do we draw the line?

If you look at the survey results you will find that 99.9% of the guys take full responsibility for themselves, and don’t expect women to cover every inch of skin — they’re just asking for help.

The honest truth is this: We’re not telling you what to wear — we’re just telling you what we, as guys, have to guard against. It is God’s Word, your own heart and conscience, and your parents and godly friends who should help you decide what to do about it. But, to help you reach your own conclusions we’ve provided some excellent resources that strike a balanced, non-legalistic tone.

http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/02/the-responsibility-of-modesty-part-one/

http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/02/the-responsibility-of-modesty-part-two/

http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/02/the-responsibility-of-modesty-part-two/

http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/02/nancy-leigh-demoss-free-to-be-modest/

7 thoughts on “Modesty

  1. Unfortunately, as much as Christian men like to talk about it, being modestly dressed doesn’t guarantee you’ll be better treated by men. I grew up hearing that propaganda.

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    1. You are correct that it isn’t a guarantee there won’t be some male somewhere sometime that won’t disrespect you. But the chances of that happening to a female dressed modestly vs a female dressed immodestly are a lot lower. You should read 1 Tim 2; 1 Peter 3; Proverbs 11, Proverbs 31. It has some very wonderful guidelines for Christian woman on how to dress. If you are wanting attention to your body that shows that it is in your heart to want that kind of attraction by men. If you are wanting attention to your mind and the “hidden beauty” as it speaks in scripture, then that shows your heart to be pure and wanting to be a representative of Christ’s child. Even in the way that you dress. If you are not a Christian but want to know more about Christ please message me anytime!! God Bless and thank you for commenting.

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      1. I grew up wearing a “modest school uniform” and in a time where fashions were more modest. I am speaking from my own experience. Christian religions that focus on modesty often have a parallel message of women being less than. I should know, I grew up in one. So when we teach young men either directly or indirectly in our churches that women are less than we are teaching them to disrespect us.
        I’m not necessarily advocating for dressing immodestly, I’m just saying that dressing modeslty is no guarantee of how a man will treat you.

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      2. I guess Muslim being one of those religions you are speaking of? I am sorry you grew up thinking you were less important than a man. That’s awful! We are all created in his image as equals as far as we are both equally important in his design. Men have certain roles, women have certain roles. But we are not to be treated less important.

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      3. No not a Muslim. I was raised Christian. Christian men will harrass Christian women. If they are raised in an environment that they are only around modestly dressed women then they will harrass them. Look at people like Josh Duggar, Warren Jeffs and I am sure there are many many more.

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  2. Just because you MIGHT get treated with disrespect by dressing modestly, doesn’t mean you should just dress immodestly. I would rather be a woman showing Christ’s goodness in all aspects, even the way I dress. Then, if I get treated with disrespect, I know it wasn’t me bringing it on, I would have a good heart about it, you know?

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